When I was first starting out as a psychic medium a few close friends and family members expressed fears about booking a mediumship reading with me.
I wanted to dig deeper into their reasoning for not wanting to hear from and speak with people they knew who had crossed over into the spirit world.
Here is what I learned.
#1 Talking with the dead conflicts with their belief system or religion
First, I want to make it clear that I’m in no position to tell people what to believe or not. There was a time when talking with the dead seemed preposterous to me, so I approach this fear with zero judgements.
In fact, when my husband and I were dating we had a conversation about ‘deal breakers’. Things that if they happened would be automatic outs – as in fair grounds for a divorce.
One of them was if one of us got evangelical – as in super preachy about their religious beliefs – the other could walk away.
Religious beliefs are intensely personal. If you attack a person’s religion, in many ways it is an attack on them. They feel it down to their bones.
I can only speak from my personal experience and knowledge of working with the spirit world.
I don’t believe there is anything wrong or evil about connecting with spirit. I do what I do because I feel it’s a beautiful way I can serve people by bringing them loving and healing messages from their departed loved ones.
#2 Fear of which spirit / loved one will step forward
There were particular people who had died that my family and friends preferred not to hear from and they didn’t want to invite further conversation with them.
These people included bullies, ex-fiances, and in general people who while they were alive their relationship was filled with challenges and they experienced a lot of pain even in their memory or recollection of said individuals.
This is the part where I state that the spirit or spirits that show up for your reading to bring you messages is largely out of my control. In my experience, spirit is a lot smarter than we are. They know the messages we need to hear, and send exactly the right people, persons or your spirit guides to deliver that information.
It can be helpful for you to think of the person or persons you would like to connect with prior to your reading (click here to learn how to set this intention prior to your reading).
In short, if fearing who will show up – whether it’s someone you want to have show up and are afraid of feeling rejected or disappointed if they don’t appear – or whether it’s a concern about hearing from someone you’d prefer not to have any more communication with – is making you hesitant to book a reading, know that you’re not alone in that concern.
#3 Fearing the information / messages from spirit
What I believe is feeding the fear of who will show up in a reading is really based on the other fear that people mentioned – fear of the information that spirit will share.
Know that in my sessions I only ask for loving and healing messages.
Spirit comes through with love and kindness, often reflecting on their life during their time on Earth and how they’ve come to realize the impact they had on you.
The spirits who step forward come to offer you support and guidance. They recognize how rough it is to be human and want to make your path easier.
You may receive reassurance for a decision you made or confirmation that your deceased loved one is still around you – watching you grow up and leading your life to the fullest. I had a client whose father passed before her children were born (which I discovered after the reading concluded) and he had beautiful and loving messages about what an incredible mother she was to her sons and gave examples of moments when she demonstrated parenting skills that far outweighed his own. He wanted to let her know how proud he was of her and that he was still around her after he had left the physical Earth.
As another example, you may have your biological father who abandoned you and your mother at a young age show up in a reading to deliver a message that provides healing not only to you, but to your entire family. This is an example of someone you may not have wanted to hear from, but spirit knew that you needed to hear this particular message.
I hope I’ve addressed some of your fears about working with a psychic medium. Mediumship readings are a very personal experience. My recommendation is to speak with someone who has had a mediumship reading and ask them about their experience.
If you don’t know anyone who has been to a medium find one that has recordings of their style of communication or attend a platform mediumship demonstration so you can see how the medium works. Not all mediums bring through messages in the same way, and it’s important to find one that feels right to you.
It’s important to enter your session feeling as though you can trust the information the psychic medium is sharing and knowing that the messages brought through from spirit are intended to serve you in beneficial and positive ways. My sincerest wish for you is that your mediumship readings are healing, informative and help you feel more connected to your loved ones who have passed.